The Courage to Saddle Up Again
Let me guess—you’re staring at your show coat hanging on the hook, trying to remember if it always had that many buttons… and wondering who decided beige breeches were a good idea for anyone over 40.
Been there.
If you’re here, reading this, it probably means you’re an older amateur (a term I like to say with a bit of flair—maybe even a jazz hand) who’s either gearing up for your first
Let’s get one thing out of the way: it’s totally normal to be scared. Like, jelly-knees, heart-thudding, maybe-I’ll-just-volunteer-today scared. The kind of fear that whispers, “What if I fall? What if I freeze? What if everyone sees me and thinks… what is she doing here?”
The answer? You’re doing something awesome. You’re showing up. Literally.
Showing horses isn’t just about ribbons or perfect rounds. It’s about facing fear, doing the thing anyway, and remembering that you’re allowed to take up space in that ring, gray hair and all. You’re not too old. You’re not out of place. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be—with hay in your hair and hope in your heart.
Now grab a coffee (or let’s be real, a glass of wine), because we’re going to dig into those show-ring jitters and figure out how to tame the butterflies—and maybe even teach them to canter in formation.
Understanding the Root of Fear
Okay, so let’s play detective for a second. Because fear? It’s sneaky. It doesn’t always shout “Hey, I’m fear!” Sometimes it shows up as procrastination. Or perfectionism. Or suddenly deciding to reorganize your tack room at 11 p.m. instead of packing for the show tomorrow.
Sound familiar?
Fear in the show ring comes in all flavors. There’s the classic “What if I fall and break something?” blend, the “What if I mess up and everyone laughs?” roast, and the ever-popular “What if I’m just not good enough?” decaf (spoiler: that one’s a total lie).
For older riders, there’s often a heaping spoonful of been-there-done-that-and-got-hurt. Maybe you had a tumble that shook you. Or maybe life just got in the way and now you’re returning with creaky knees, a stiff back, and a whole lot more caution than you had at 25. That’s okay. That’s human.
The trick is to name the fear. Once you call it out—say it out loud, write it in your journal, yell it into a feed bucket—it loses some of its bite. You realize that it’s not the ring or the judge or your
Because you? You’re still in the game. And that’s something to celebrate.
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Fear of Falling or Injury
Alright, let’s talk about the one that keeps most of us up at night: falling.
When you’re younger, falling off kind of feels like a rite of passage. You bounce. You get up. You laugh it off. Maybe you get a cool scar and a story. But when you’re older, it’s not quite so funny.
Now we think about things like… insurance. Or how long it would take to get back in the saddle after a broken collarbone. Or whether we can even find our riding gloves without using our reading glasses.
The fear of injury is real—and totally valid. But guess what? You’re not helpless. You’ve got tools. You’ve got life experience. And you’ve probably got more Advil in your tack box than most teenagers have in their whole house.
Start by easing in. Ride in a space where you feel safe. Skip the spooky corners until you’re ready. Work with a
Also? Get strong. Not “run-a-marathon” strong. Just “hold-my-two-point-for-more-than-ten-seconds” strong. Yoga, Pilates, trail hikes—they’re all good. Not just for your body, but for your brain too. Because when your core is tight and your seat is solid, your mind stops worrying so much about falling.
And hey, if the fear still shows up? That’s okay. Just nod at it, thank it for trying to protect you, and then go do your thing anyway.
Horse Show Jitters? Meet Your New Secret Weapon. 
Say hello to calm in a bottle—this Calm Essential Oil Roll-On is your go-to when your stomach’s doing somersaults before your class. Just roll it onto your wrists, neck, or temples, take a deep breath, and let the lavender and chamomile work their magic. 
Perfect for those moments before you mount up, while you're waiting at the in-gate, or when your trainer says, "Just relax!" (…easier said than done, right?).
Pocket-sized peace
All-natural and non-greasy
Smells like confidence and courage
Pro tip: Swipe some on your show bag zipper—you’ll thank yourself later.
Fear of Judgment or Embarrassment
This one hits close to home. Raise your hand if you’ve ever flubbed a diagonal and then spent the rest of your ride convinced the judge was going to write “Bless her heart” on the scorecard.
Yeah. Me too.
Fear of judgment is that quiet voice in your head that says, “They’re all watching.” And okay, maybe a few people are. But most of them? They’re too busy worrying about their own rides, their own diagonals, their own flying lead change that may or may not happen before the out gate.
Still, it’s hard. We live in a world where image matters—where everyone’s Instagram reel makes it look like they’re training for the Olympics in matching saddle pads and breeches that actually stay white. But real life? Real life is messy. It’s dusty helmets and forgotten course patterns and horses that decide to spook at their own poop.
The truth is, you will mess up. Everyone does. That’s part of riding. But you’ll also shine in moments you didn’t expect. You’ll connect with your
So the next time your brain says, “What if I embarrass myself?” You tell it, “So what?” You’re showing up, trying your best, and living your horsey dream. That’s something most people only fantasize about. You’re not embarrassing—you’re extraordinary.
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